3 Reasons I Had The Date From Hell

Sep 30, 2021

Have you ever had a date that just didn’t go anywhere?
Have you ever had a date in which the moment you sat down, you just knew you weren’t interested?
Have you ever had a date that just went exceedingly wrong?

I went on a date once and because I wasn’t feeling great about myself I made several mistakes going into this date. The first mistake contributed to the 2nd and 3rd mistake which ultimately led to the date from hell.

The first mistake I made was going onto the app when I was feeling lonely and insecure.
The second mistake I made was swiping right on people that I normally would not have swiped on.
The third mistake I made was meeting up with someone that same day.

It was an awful date.
We met at a restaurant for dinner. We were quickly led to a table and he ordered a bottle of wine the minute we sat down. If I was feeling more secure I would have noticed that this was a yellow flag - ordering an entire bottle of wine before asking if I drink and before asking if I planned on having more than one.
If I was feeling more grounded I would have noticed this was actually an orange flag because his main focus was on drinking and not getting to know me.

He proceeded to drink excessively because he was as broken as I was feeling at the time. His drinking made him sad in the beginning and he lamented how lonely he was feeling. This quickly progressed to anger and belligerence as he spoke about his ex-wife and how she wronged him. He had knocked over glasses as he gestured expansively. and didn’t seem to notice or to care. He was rude to the server and I wasn't willing to be next. I had sat through this long enough because at the time I didn't have the tools I have now.

Eventually, I decided to leave.

I told him, "I appreciate the date and getting to know you. I'm not feeling that we're compatible and I'm leaving. I wish you all the best."

I stood up and walked out. I didn't make him wrong nor did I make excuses. I stated everything matter- of- factly in as few words as possible and left. I had enough self respect to honor myself and get the hell out of there as quickly as I could. No good would have come if I had stayed. He didn't honor his part of the bargain of being a good date. He wasn't interested in getting to know me. His intention was on having a willing accomplice to be there with him while he spiraled downward. I didn't sign up for that. I didn't owe him anything.

Has this ever happened to you?
Have you ever been at a low point in your life and because you’re feeling lonely, frustrated, and insecure you’re not making the best decisions for yourself?
Are you meeting men that are all wrong for you?
Are you not attracting the right ones?

We’ve all done this. Perhaps you’re doing this now. But it doesn’t have to be this way.
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At the end of the date from hell, even though I made several mistakes before and during the date, I made a correction in leaving. I want you to make corrections, too.
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Don't you want that, too?

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