7 Tips To Be A Motivated Dater

be a motivated dater May 14, 2023

Who hasn’t, at one time or another, felt like you're stuck in a dating rut? It happens to the best of us.

In the beginning, after you're over your past relationship, you begin to think about dating again. Slowly and measurably, you dip your toe into the dating pool.

Like the rest of the dating world, you start with dating apps because it's the easiest. You lurk around swiping left and right based on the photos.

Eventually, you start to take dating more seriously and begin reading the bios. You're determined to connect with someone and end the pain of dating apps all together.

You connect, text back and forth and eventually meet. Some dates go well while many don't. You try again and again.

If you've been following me for a while, you're already very clear about who you're looking for.


Yet, you're not getting anywhere.

You connect, text, meet and date and repeat. This seemingly endless cycle continues to roll. For some of you, this continues for years. Eventually, you reach a point where you are emotionally drained.

You can't imagine going on another app and wasting hours like you've been doing. Somethings got to give.

It's tough to stay motivated when everything feels like Groundhog Day. That's why I've come up with dating tips to get you to stay motivated.


7 Tips To Be A Motivated Dater

1. Know what results you want.

Having an end goal in mind can keep you motivated until you see light at the end of the tunnel.

2. Have a game plan.

Having a plan and knowing what steps to take will make it easier to get what you want.

3.  Be realistic.

If you're looking to get married next year, are you taking actionable steps to make it happen?

4. Set achievable goals.

By setting small, achievable goals you'll know you're on the right track.

5. Reward yourself.

Celebrating your achievements, no matter how seemingly small will motivate you to keep going.

6. Be open to all possibilities.

Being open by going somewhere different, trying new things and being willing to take risks will reenergize you.

7. Stay positive.

Go on apps, text, connect and date when you're feeling good about yourself. You'll be far more likely to reach the right people when you feel good about yourself.


I'd like to hear your thoughts.  

Where are you on your dating journey? If you've gotten stuck, what did you do to get out of the rut and stay energized? 

No matter where you are, it's always great to get support.

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