Dating After A Breakup, Here's How I Healed - 5 Ways To Get Over Your Breakup.

5 Ways To Get Over Your Breakup

If you recently ended a relationship you might be eager to get back out there and start dating.

That, I understand.

If you're one of the many people who quickly begin dating after a breakup, you're not alone.

It can be lonely and with the weather cold in many parts of the world, you may be feeling depressed. 

Depending on the break up, you may experience sadness or anger.

You want nothing more than to feel love again. You may crave comfort and safety. You may want someone new to fill this void. I get it.

Getting over a breakup is tough. No matter if the break up was recent or a year or more ago you could be feeling all kinds of emotions. And that's okay.

You might blame yourself if he/ she was the one to leave.

You might be grieving the loss of what once was.

You may feel rage because you feel hurt.

You may be confused and wonder what happened.

If there wasn't closure, it may take a while to feel comfortable enough to move on.

Sure, you probably want everyone to think you're okay. But it's understandable that you're not.

Reach out to a friend to sit with you and support you while you cry. Know this won't last forever.

Take all the time you need to honor your feelings. Lean in and feel the sadness, the anger, the confusion. Don't try to sweep it under the rug.

The more you can embrace the situation and honor your emotions. the quicker you can let it move through and let it pass.

I know from experience that there's nothing worse than to begin dating and start crying or oversharing on the date - because you moved too quickly.

If you can, schedule an appointment with a therapist. Meeting one can help you process your feelings and begin healing.

My first boyfriend scheduled an appointment for me when I was 21. He had chosen someone over me and saw how devastated I was. To this day, I continue to see a therapist whenever things happen that I'm not able to process. Their help is invaluable.

If that seems too daunting, schedule a massage or even a foot reflexology appointment. Having someone's healing hands on you can do wonders in having you feel safe, secure and loved.

Watch a sad film and cry in the comfort of a dark movie theatre in the daytime (when no one's around). Those are just a few ways to get over your breakup.

Here's how I healed after a 13- year relationship.

After my marriage ended, I craved comfort food. I would go to a small Italian restaurant and tell them to seat me in the back. I told them I was going to do a lot of crying and whimpering over my pasta bolognese and I was open to any hugs if they were available.

I leaned into my sadness and frustration and got it all out. Yes, it took time. But, I fully embraced all of my negative emotions.

I screamed. I roared. I hit pillows and stomped. I cried and wailed. Sometimes alone and other times with a group of supportive women who were there to cry and stomp along with me and hold and comfort me afterwards.

And, slowly, very slowly I began to feel better.

Months after that, after I could pull myself off the floor, I felt well enough to begin dating again.

If you're feeling healed from a breakup and ready to try dating, let's talk.

I'd like to connect with you and hear about your situation and see if I can help.

Click here to schedule your free Strategy Call.

Dare to date when you're healed and feeling better,

Elizabeth