Does Your Dating Success Look Like This?Dec 08, 2022
I left the date and headed downtown feeling frustrated, disappointed and annoyed.
I had just come from a 2nd date with someone who decided he no longer wanted to see me.
I was annoyed because I wasn't that interested in him.
I was disappointed that I was either too much (or not enough) - the story of my life.
I felt frustrated and feared I was going to be alone the rest of my life.
I entered the Morgan Hotel on Madison, a block from my Park Ave apartment. I walked down the stairs to the lounge to get a much needed drink.
With a glass of white wine in my hand, I turned away from the bar quickly.
Bumping into a man, I succeeded in spilling my entire drink all over my new silk blouse. The man apologized profusely with a thick French accent and offered to buy me a replacement.
I was in a bitchy mood at this point and said something snarky, I'm sure.
Much was lost in translation that evening except the fact that I married this same French man 3 years later.
If I hadn't been dumped,
If I hadn't gone out to nurse my wounds with another glass of wine,
If I hadn't spilled the wine all over me,
I wouldn't have met the father of my child.
When it comes to dating, your success isn’t linear.
Meaning, it's not a straight line.
You'll see someone, get excited and have it go nowhere.
You'll connect and go out a few times and have it fizzle.
Sometimes you'll like your date more and feel disappointed the feelings aren’t mutual.
Other times you'll have to do the hard work of letting your date down.
This is all normal and doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you.
Quite the opposite.
It's all part of the process.
It's a way of learning what you like and seeing the contrast, determining what you don't.
Don't be so hard on yourself.
Instead, let it go.
Let it go knowing the next person you meet will bring you that much closer to your ideal match.
If you're experiencing a challenge and are ready to get loving but not lenient coaching and support, I can help.
My goal is to help you find love and be in a wonderful, connected relationship.
When you fall, having a safe space to land can help you bounce back and rise to new levels. It can make all the difference in getting up and moving forward.
Your path won't be linear. You'll zig and you'll zag.
Sometimes you'll freeze paralyzed with fear, frustration and disappointment.
To move to a lateral place, asking for help and guidance can get you to a better upward path.
When you come to a place where you aren't certain what to do, its helpful to pause and with support, consider your options before starting again.
When you have someone in your corner, you can lick your wounds quicker.
When you have a guide, its easier to stay on the path and climb higher.
When you feel immobile, a cheerleader can keep your spirits and confidence up so you can take action.
Whatever your obstacles are, your greatest success is ahead.
If you’re feeling stuck and need validation, watch this entertaining video by French artist, Yoann Bourgeois.
You've got this. And I've got you.
Date intentionally (with support),
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