Is This Why You Hate Dating?Oct 05, 2021
When you think of dating, how do you feel about it?
Do you feel a sense of dread?
Do you have fear about opening up to someone?
Do you worry that the other person may not like you?
You’re not alone.
Lots of people don’t enjoy dating. I've spoken to lots of women, male friends and dates of all ages to find out why they hate dating and this keeps coming up over and over.
The #1 fear...
is the fear of opening up, of being vulnerable.
Most people are concerned that they are not likable, that they don’t deserve love.
Can you relate?
Is this you?
The majority of people I've spoken to are fearful of being who they are. So many pretend to be someone they're not.
Maybe you’ve come across dating profiles that are grossly inaccurate in self- representation and it annoys the heck out of you.
Pictures posted that are 6 months old or older.
Filters used to make them appear younger, thinner, buffer and taller.
Luxurious status symbols meant to convey that they’re more successful than they are.
The list goes on and on.
We’ve all seen it and it can be challenging figuring out if they are for real or not.
It can be tiring and frustrating.
It can make you want to stop dating all together.
But, how do you know who’s telling the truth?
How do you know who’s the real deal?
Here's one way that will completely surprise you and I'm sure you'll resist but if you do this it will put the odds in your favor.
It has to do with you and how you’re representing yourself.
I know that sounds incredulous and you’re probably thinking, who the hell does she think she is?
But hear me out.
If you’re fudging your own appearance, your age or something else, you’re going to attract someone who’s doing it too. If you’re not being truthful about your age or your size, I guarantee he’s being untruthful about his height, income or something more serious (like his marital status). Like attracts like meaning that people with similar values, intentions and even energy attract one another.
If you’re being deceptive about something, you’re going to attract someone who’s being deceptive too.
Now, I can’t promise you that if you’re 100% truthful you won’t get screwed. That’s always a possibility. But if you have good intentions, are self aware and know how to ask the right questions while checking in with your intuition, the likelihood diminishes greatly.
If you’re meeting someone in person or using dating apps it’s important to go into it open and cautious, trusting and discerning, strong and vulnerable. One shouldn't override the other, you can be both at the same time.
When you’re interested in attracting and dating the right one for you, when you're ready to try something different that can help bring the right one to you easier, quicker and with more fun and you’re open to getting support, let’s connect and see if we're the right fit to work together.
You can schedule a free Strategy Call here.
Date intentionally by being your true self,
P.S. If you'd like to learn more, check out this video,
3 Reasons You're Not Attracting Mr Right
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