Learning 1 Tool Can Make All The Difference In DatingSep 24, 2021
Recently, I was working with a group of women and it came time for Q&As. All hands shot up as each woman had questions about dating.
There were the usual complaints, problems and challenges about not being able to meet the right men, going out with men who end up ghosting them, not having a second date when things seemed to go so well, maybe you can relate. I offered to do some role-playing if participants were open to being coached.
Women after women presented their biggest dating challenge and if she was up for it, I pretended to be the male counterpart.
One woman had problems with gaining the man's interest after matching on a dating app. When it came to texting, she didn't know what to say and I coached her on not only what to say but how to say it. After pointing out how the man was perceiving what she was texting, she quickly understood what the problem was.
The challenge for her was learning a new way of doing things.
When you’ve been doing things the same way, it’s difficult to do something differently. It’s easy to know and understand that what you’re doing isn’t working. It’s easy to know and understand the right way to do something but unless you practice until it becomes rote, until it becomes automatic, you’re going to continue doing what you’ve been doing and you’re going to continue getting the same results.
The women working with me understood that learning a new skill is tough. They’ve heard the saying, “the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results”. But unless you know what to do and unless you practice this new found skill or utilize this new tool over and over again you’re going to revert back to what you’ve been doing, what you’re comfortable with.
So the woman practiced. She and I practiced together and after several attempts she comfortably got the hang of it. Everyone that evening got to practice until they could confidently and comfortably text in a way that the conversation flowed. And they began to enjoy themselves. They began to have fun. They began to understand a new way of dating and they began to feel the pleasure in getting to know someone and exchanging texts. They began to notice miscommunication and learned how to move it quickly to a phone call or FaceTime easily for clearer communication. They began to see how much fun dating can be.
The excitement and confidence that they felt was undeniable. The women walked in frustrated, confused and exasperated and walked out happily confident, excited and eager. They couldn't wait to try out this new tool on their own.
I see a lot of smart, professional women. Women who are successful in all areas of their life come to me bewildered about dating. They feel fear, confusion, frustration and a lack of confidence.
If this sounds like you, I'm here to assure you it doesn't have to be this way. You can easily learn the tools to empower yourself in attracting men you're interested in and confidently date knowing that you're the prize. As a result, you can be in a loving, connected relationships sooner than you think.
A fabulous new program is being created with you in mind. If this sounds like something you're interested in, let me know by subscribing or emailing me at [email protected] that you’re interested. Feel free to share this with your friends.
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