Big 5 Reasons You're Resisting a Partner

big 5 reasons you're not in a relationship big 5 reasons you're resisting a partner Oct 22, 2023


We all know LOVE has the power to light up our lives. Yet, the road to love can be narrow and bumpy often caused by our own resistance. We've all been there.

Personally, I faced so much resistance (as did my partner) to the relationship we're in. We had 3 of the Big 5 resistances which I'll outline below.

Much of this relates to primitive attachment styles that are imprinted early in our development. As your science- based dating coach, I'm sharing with you the Big 5 reasons why you're resisting a partner, too.

Next week we'll look at how to overcome these obstacles so you can open your heart to the love and intimacy you desire and so richly deserve.

All of us want to be in a loving, supportive relationship. There's great joy in sharing a life with someone that sees and hears you, supports and loves you. Yet frequently, there are barriers of resistance that keeps you from what you want.

As a results oriented dating coach, I've had the privilege of working with and learning from hundreds of women (and select heart centered men). These are women and men like you. They've all had incredible success in all areas of their lives. However, I've found that those successes don't translate to the arena of love.

All of the attributes that have created success in other areas of your life don't help when it comes to creating and nurturing a romantic relationship.

The reason is, we're set up easily for success with our careers. But, not when it comes to love.

We don't go to school, can't get a degree or a promotion or get paid a high income to be in a relationship.

There's very little training and support unless you hire a certified dating coach.

The Art of Dating Academy is the place to learn how to fulfill your desires and manifest your best loving life.

We all know how trendy it is to find fault with partners. We see it every day on YouTube, TikTok and FB. The media gives you dismal odds of success in marriages so it's no wonder you're having such a hard time dating.

Forget the statistics and white noise, you're not a number. You're different. You have a growth mindset otherwise, you wouldn't be here. You're destined for greatness and happiness in a loving relationship.

But, you do have resistance. Let's address what's keeping you from being in a relationship.

Here are 5 Reasons You're Having Trouble Finding Love

1. Fear of Rejection

Many of us are terrified of rejection. As a result, we shy away from putting ourselves out there, afraid that someone we're interested in might not feel the same way about us.                                     

2. Past Heartaches

All of us come to dating with baggage from our past. These old wounds from past relationships run deep and leave scars. We're cautious and wary of truly opening ourselves up to explore new romantic possibilities.        

3. Self-Doubt

All of us lack a certain degree of self confidence in the area of love. This lowered self-esteem can cause us to question our worthiness to receive love and prevents us from embracing dating with confidence and purpose.

4. Comfort in Solitude

The single life offers a sense of comfort and routine that we can grow attached to, making us resistant to change and the potential disruptions that love may bring.

5. Societal Expectations

Societal pressures from friends, family, and cultural norms may push us to date when we're not truly ready, leading to resistance and anxiety. 

Overcoming the Big 5 resistance factors to dating is a rewarding, heartfelt journey of self-discovery and personal growth.

Taking a radical inventory of the origins of your resistance (which is what my partner and I did) is the first step.

Next, practice a high level of self care by nurturing your self esteem.

Finally, take small, deliberate steps by connecting and communicating while dating.

By doing these three things, your heart will open up to the captivating world of a meaningful, purposeful relationship.

What about you?

Do you feel resistance to dating?

Are your resistances keeping you from connecting?

Which one(s) of the Big 5 above is holding you back from love?

I would love to hear from you. Please reach out and share your story with me. I'm here for you. I'll stand with you and support you on your journey to love.

Next week, we'll look at the ways that will help you overcome your resistance. You'll learn the tools and techniques that will allow you to connect with potential partners, whether online or in person.

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 Can't wait to see you there.

Dare to Date Differently,

Elizabeth (Your Wingwoman in Love and Life)

By taking small, deliberate steps, you can open your heart and receive love.

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